Five Seconds

March 20, 2015 Filed Under: Guest post: Tricie, Personal 8 Comments

Today marks my last day as a planner (!) – and while it was something I didn’t see coming for the first quarter of the year, the universe did hint that maybe not knowing when I was ready proved to be the exact reason why I took this risk and made the big leap.

In line with today’s events, I’m sharing an article Tricie wrote (wonderfully) – which is pretty much on point. Read on. 

Five Seconds

I believe that if you want to move forward in life, all it takes is 5 seconds.

I know, many of people have said it before: “5 seconds of insane courage.” Like most clichés, it’s corny but true.

Courage is always depicted as something someone has all the time. In fairytales, the prince is always brave, willing to fight anyone for his princess. In movies, the protagonist always has a game face on, rarely showing any hint of fear. When they show fear in movies, it’s more of a short wave of fear, not really about a person who lives in fear. But if we are honest with ourselves, fear may actually be more constant than courage.

Sometimes, we don’t even know we are afraid. Our monsters are no longer what hide under our beds, but really, what hide in our hearts. We are so used to what we have now and we are so used to normalcy that change is not really desired. We fear how we would be treated if we were to truly be ourselves. We fear how life will be if we go after what we want. We fear telling the inconvenient truth over the comfortable lie. It is our fear of the unknown and the things we cannot control that eat us up. It may not feel like fear because of the comfort we feel. It doesn’t feel like fear because of the illusion of safety. But deep down, it exists, and it is holding you back from moving forward.

Fear isn’t necessarily a bad thing – when used in the right way. In Divergent, one of the characters said, “Fear doesn’t shut you down, it wakes you up.” That’s what you do with fear. You realize it is there, and work against it. Are you afraid to be yourself? Then maybe your fear is waking you up and telling you that you’re not surrounding yourself with the right people. Are you afraid to quit your job to do what you want? Then use your fear to make a plan so you feel more secure of what you’re going to do.

Then go out and do it.

Take those 5 seconds and turn it into courage.

It takes 5 seconds to tell someone you like them. It takes 5 seconds to put down your pride and say “I’m sorry”. It takes 5 seconds to hand in that resignation and start what you want to start. Whatever happens after, will be for your benefit. If things don’t turn out the way you want it to, it’s okay. It will be okay because you have the capacity to change things. But you will never know what’s going to happen if you don’t think, act, and be courageous.

Just for 5 seconds.

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8 Responses to “Five Seconds”

  1. Nurul
    March 20, 2015 at 3:41 pm

    To take a leap and move forward is always nerve-wracking for me, so courage is something I need to work on. Thanks so much for this reminder, Tricie and Abbey! :)

    PS: @Abbey, are you going to do freelance full time? #curiouscat :)

  2. Abbey
    March 20, 2015 at 8:59 pm

    You definitely have to! It will be worth it, promise.

    Yes. I quit my job today :) Hehe.

  3. Patty Victorino
    March 21, 2015 at 11:40 pm

    This is a great piece! I also find that often, the result of what we’re worrying about is actually way better and tame than what we expect.

  4. Abbey
    March 21, 2015 at 11:47 pm

    Thanks Patty! :) True!

  5. Jomil Adrielle
    March 23, 2015 at 5:29 pm

    I want to say congratulations for being so courageous. Here’s to new beginnings :)

  6. Abbey
    March 23, 2015 at 10:56 pm

    Thanks Jomil! :)

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